Most of us are given a “filter”. This “filter” protects us from saying stupid, asinine things. A thought will go through your head and as this thought makes its way to your mouth, the “filter” will make a last-minute decision on whether or not you should say this. Most of the time it works. When it doesn’t, be prepared to ask forgiveness.

The offended party will often say “You said it because that’s how you feel.” That’s not always true. It can be as simple as “I said it because I wasn’t thinking.” Most of the time, the wrong thing is said during the heat of an argument or deep frustration. A couple will be fighting and they both say detestable things to each other which in turn will cause the fight to continue or end in an uncivil manner.

How can you avoid saying something you’ll regret? Simple. Step back from the argument or frustration and take a deep breath. Don’t raise your voice (and your blood pressure). Instead, take a bird’s eye view of the situation and figure out why this argument started. What can I do to resolve it? Is it really worth the debate? Where can we find a compromise?

By yelling, screaming and throwing your hands around like you’re being controlled by some puppeteer will not make your case any stronger. In fact, it will make you look like an ass. Keep your voice at a speaking volume, gather your thoughts (and breath) and figure it out like adults.

Before you speak, think “Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence?”
Sri Sathya Sai Baba (Indian Spiritual Leader)

No matter how others behave, I keep peace in my heart by giving myself quiet time everyday to connect with my deeper self.  The positive person.  The person that I know I am.  I practice stillness to help get rid of the noise that we are constantly surrounded by.  So much of our suffering comes from having so many thoughts and noise in our heads   So among chaos, confusion and noise step back…. be still… find the positive.  Tell yourself “be still”.

Now I said thinking can be a bad thing. There are good types of thinking. Positive thinking! However, when you find yourself starting to put thoughts in your head that make you upset or doubtful, stop immediately. Start to think about something good in your life. For example, someone you love or a trustworthy friend.

I had the experience this morning of waking up to a couple thoughts in my head that made me feel negative. I knew the minute it happened I would be setting my day up to be a chain reaction of negative events. I switched gears and started to put positive energy into my Universe.

I find that bad thoughts are those of “wanting thoughts”. When you start to think about things that make you “want”, you will find yourself feeling empty. Don’t get this confused with using the Law of Attraction which is defined as people’s thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) that dictate the reality of their lives. I believe that if a person truly feels and believes they want something, they will get it. However, if you want something for the wrong reason or if that “wanting thought” is making you feel empty, jealous or stressed you should stop that thought immediately.

Don’t let “wanting thoughts” take control of you. Open your mind and open your heart.

The Universe will start to rearrange itself to make it happen for you.
~ Dr. Joe Vitale, Metaphysician, Marketing Specialist and Author